Anyone have positive feedback about marriage/couples counseling??
by admin on Thursday, February 18th, 2010 | 5 Comments
My husband finally agreed to marriage counseling after the mother of all fights the other night. We have only been married a year, and have a nine month old baby. We have been together for 6 years total. I am 28 he is 30. We have financial stress constantly and I believe thats why we fight, we both work. He has been very cold and disrespectful lately, and before the baby gets big enough to understand this I want to put a stop to it, I love him very much. There are no infidelity issues. Anyone have a positive experience from counseling, we start next week and need to know what to expect.
Yeah- My hubby and I were in a similar situation and attended counseling sessions. Actually we got better only because we witnessed worse couples in the waiting room and group sessions and found out that, “Hey, we’re not doing so bad after all!” seeing those other screwed up couples was all it took!!!! Good luck, hope it works out!
Yes, my wife and I had similar stresses early in our marriage. We were broke, I worked long hours, young kids, no family nearby, etc….
We seemed to fight all the time and I spent many a night sleeping on the couch. We went to counseling with our Pastor and he helped us straighten out our priorities. God and Family before all other things. We recommited to each other and rode out those tough years…and with each hurdle surmounted, our marriage further strengthened.
I, personally, have never been. But I know numerous couples who have, and the only ones that it did not work for were the ones that did not put in the effort and refused to do anything the therapist suggested. In cases like that, they were bound for divorce anyway. Everyone else it has helped a lot! Marriage counselors help you identify the REAL problems in your marriage, and help you find constructive solutions and strategies for dealing with those problems. So you have nothing to lose and everything to gain! Good luck!
p.s. If one counselor does not work out for you, I urge you to try another. They are not all the same.
I’ve never been to counseling, but I think your making a good choice to go. I don’t think money ever a reason to split up. So stay devoted and work hard on making things work out..
Well from my personal point of view I think that it would great. My husband and I took premaritial counseling with the church we got married and I personally loved it. For some people I heard that it makes them closer and I would recommend taking it in a church most of their services are free and you get a special connection.