my sister is in a abusive relationship , but denies it , how do i help her get over him and move on?
my sister is in a abusive relationship with her boyfriend of a year, they lived together. but my dad had to go rescue her she wasnt allowed to call her family, or her boyfriend would get mad, she had bruises on her arm , he couldnt support her , she had to pay the bills and rent, he threateneded to cook the dog, but she says that he was only drunk and has a temper when hes drunk. and he hasnt done it in a couple of months. do you think he has a problem i get a bad feeling when her and him are together. he said he movedd her to florida to get her away from her family.. btw, he is 29 and she is 20. my family does not like him.
i know its her life and not mine but i care about her alot, and she is my bestfriend. and i dont want her to waste or ruin her life for him.
Sorry to hear that. But tell her to move out on something.
You don’t.
It’s her life – not yours.
You need to let her make her own mistakes, tell her how you feel and leave it up to her to decide what she wants to do with that.
Wait for the next problem to arise then call the police.
Well, you mean well, but you can’t do anything that you haven’t already done. Your sister is an adult. She has to make her own mistakes, (which she is clearly doing), and you can’t force her to do anything.
I think that there are lots of issues between your sister and the boyfriend, but it’s her life. All you can do is try to be there when she needs you. Watch the show intervention, and learn a few things. Talk to your parents, and try to arrange a little intervention of your own for her. She either leaves him, or you and your family are done helping her. Sometimes tough love is all that you can do.
call the police NOW!!! don’t wait until someone seriously gets hurt , your sister may be mad at you for a while but eventually she will thank you for what you did for her
i knew a girl that have 3 kids and the guy treats her same way she lost her job because of him he called in one day last year before thanksgiving and told all kinds of crazy stuff about her so she went on a week of vacation and she did not come back to work i lost contact whit her no one knows if she still in florida or she move to Pennsylvania that’s where her family lives she should just move out as far away from him as possible and not tell him where she is moving
yes he has a problem..can’t you see that? Can’t she? Your family does not have blinders on and can see more clearly than she can. She got bruises and threatened to cook the dog for God’s sake. That screams ABUSE. Doesn’t matter if he is drunk or not..he has many problems…anger, trust, alcohol, insecurity etc. PLUS he is a leech and a pimp making her work and taking her money.
Your sister better wake up. have her call Battered Women’s Shelter and get some information and counseling on this before going back…let them TELL her and SHOW her the damage and problems he can do. She is out of now…she is lucky. Going back…she may not be so lucky to get out alive.
Do NOT listen to people here. She is a dangerous situation and this is your sister and she needs help. She needs to hear from you all so you can stand united and show her how dangerous this is. You do not enable alcoholics and abusers or child molesters to continue their actions. You do not enable them and tell them it is ok. You do interventions and stand up for your sister and let her know she has much love and support. Without that …she will never know she can leave..she NEEDS To KNOW that you are all with her and that she is not crazy…this is SERIOUS! She is blinded by emotion and you all need to make her face it. OK?
One thing abusers do is make women isolated and make them feel like everything is their fault and it isn’t as bad as it seems. They make them feel crazy for complaining and if they just do things right everything will be ok. Problem is…it is never ok…there is always something to blame their anger on until they get help. Even then it is really iffy.
People are nuts if they think not saying anything will help and she should handle her own life. She needs RESCUING from a DANGEROUS LIFE Or DEATH situation. It will be that too.
I worked for Battered womens Shelter…I KNOW
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my sister is in a abusive relationship , but denies it , how do i …
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