First, let me give you a few details of the relationship between me and my boyfriend. Yes, I’m 39 and he’s 24. But I DO NOT take care of him nor am I being used for my money. In fact, he makes more money with his construction job than I do as a manager at the movie theater. I love him and he loves me and we’re both willing to overcome any and all obstacles that cross our path. I’ve been dating him for eleven months and I’m currently three months pregnant with his first child and my fourth. Anyway, he used to hit me but he hasn’t done it much since I got pregnant and I told him that he needs to go to therapy if this has any chance of working.

He also picked fights with my gay son and called him f@gs. But worst of all, he cheated on me multiple times. And each of the women, including my 21 year old gay son’s so-called best friend(a female) and this other young lady that lives across the street from his mother’s house. They all were arrogant and felt that they would be able to steal my man because they had something I lacked….YOUTH. They were all 18-22 years old.

It’s pitiful because at the end of the day, I always win his heart and they always end up with a broken heart. “Old” and everything! And it’s not like I’m being used for my money because I don’t have much money! My boyfriend loves ME and any chick who who goes after him is nothing but a piece of booty.

Anyway….about my son. I have no issue with him being gay…however hard as it is to be gay AND black in America. Anyway, I found out that he was seeing a bisexual guy who is already in a relationship with a woman. I was furious and I told my son how ashamed I was of him for reducing himself to be a taken man’s piece of meat on the side. He needs more self-esteem than that. I know I taught him better. However, my son gets all defensive and attacks me(not physically of course) because I choose to keep giving my boyfriend chances. Well, at least I’m not reducing myself to being a whore on the side. My boyfriend helps pay MY bills, he comes home to Me every night and he chose ME to give birth to his first child.

What other way can I convince my son that sleeping with a taken man is absolutely pitiful without him getting offended and defensive? I’m tired of arguing with him but I want him to learn something from me before he gets seriously hurt. I love him too much.
Neo Axl, I don’t ask this question to be criticized or lectured for my personal decisions. I am trying to help my SON.