What Advice Would Women Give To Men Particularly Their Sons If They’re Bitter Or Scorned Due To A Divorce?

Some of us went into the marriage with the best intentions. However, it didn’t work out and we may have gotten an unfavorable outcome from the court system.
I personally am a divorcee. My ex committed adultery multiple times and one of those times was with a close family member. I had to move with my mother thereafter to pay for the house we were living in and my child support for my biological daughter. Shortly after this, I got a vascectomy because I never wanted a child I fathered to be used against me in court. I myself am financially crippled due to it. Due to lack of finances, I have no love life.
I already know many on this forum will say stop whining and that it’s the price of a bad choice. I just had to ask the question, though if you had a son: How you women would deal with situation? What if he asked to live with you in his economic hardship?